Recent Posts in Initial Contacts and Questions Category
Posted on Oct 10, 2011 By Thurman W. Arnold, III, Family Law Mediator
DFMS Is Now (Almost) 18 Months Old ! I want to compliment and honor those of you who have seen the terrible destruction and waste that is characteristic of family court litigation, and who have been ...
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Posted on Dec 10, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold, III, CFLS
Mediation is a difficult and beautiful dance. People arrive with deeply held and heartfelt concerns, and they will continue to hold these core values no matter what occurs. It is not for the mediator ...
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Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
Is mediation the best choice for you? Will the other person in your life participate at all, or participate fairly? We can't answer those questions. We can speak to how mediation might work for you ...
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Posted on Oct 30, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
One reason why people become "stuck" is that they develop patterns of dealing with conflict, over time, with their spouses, domestic partners, employers, children, inlaws, and just about everybody ...
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Posted on Oct 29, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
Q. So I am wondering - why would we need mediation if my wife and I already know and are agreed about how to divide our stuff? I am thinking we should have a cheap divorce. A. You may not need ...
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Posted on Oct 24, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold III
Q. One of reasons why I am considering mediation is that that I've heard it is confidential. It is really important to me and my family that our personal matters not become public. How confidential is ...
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Posted on Oct 19, 2010 By T.W. Arnold
The question of mediators talking to one party in the absence of the other can come up in a variety of contexts. This Blog discusses initial contacts from one party, often when they are simply seeking ...
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