A Family Mediation Practice Serving
Separating Couples in Southern California
Desert Artist Snake Jagger
Welcome to the California Divorce Peacemaking Blog!
This Blog aims to make information available about California Mediation practices, to introduce you to the Team of professional Mediators who comprise Desert Family Mediation Services (DFMS), and to describe our peacemaking styles and vision.
We use the word "peacemaking" not to imply some new agey concept but instead to emphasize the core values that mediation uniquely offers: For us the term speaks to a dedicated and focused practice of facilitating resolutions between people who hold opposing views about their otherwise shared history and what those divergent experiences mean in a practical sense to each of them in moving forward in their lives.
Conflict causes us all to become stuck, and yet conflict offers each of us the opportunity to grow. Peacemaking explores this tension in what is, hopefully, a masterful way and aspires to mid-wife a transition to a richer and more fulfilling future. It is grounded in an acknowledgment and respect for the interdependence that binds us all.
The members of DFMS believe that the relationships between couples are ground zero for the quality of all our lives, and that on a day to day basis these struggles define our experiences. This connectedness plays out in very important real life ways often involving power, property, money, and children. Our belief is that most family law disputes can be successfully mediated, and that the mediation alternative carries important benefits over traditional Court supervised divorce and domestic partnership dissolutions. At the same time, mediation is not appropriate for everybody.
Our Peacemaking Blog is new and we are adding information and links regularly. If you have specific legal questions for need more information about any legal topic, try Thurman Arnold's California Family Law Blog and use the website search engine at the top of any page!
Each Partner Holds The Key to the Solution for Themselves and the Other
We Mediate Divorce, Dissolution, Custody, Support and
Property Division Matters Within the Desert Cities Surrounding Palm Springs, and Within Riverside and San Bernardino Counties
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the Greater Los Angeles communities of Beverly Hills, Torrance, Santa Monica, and Brentwood!
Please visit us at Los Angeles Family Mediation Services too!
| February 11, 2012 |
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Announcing WEBSITE DESIGN and SEO For Mediators By Thurman Arnold
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| Posted By Thurman W. Arnold, III |
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| Website Design, Development and Optimization for Divorce and Family Law Mediation This blog article is written for anyone who is a mediator, or who is beginning to seriously consider making the commitment to establishing a mediation practice within ... |
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| February 07, 2012 |
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GARY FRIEDMAN to Teach RIVERSIDE County Attorneys Mediation Skills at Upcoming Workshop
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| I am pleased to be this year's Chair of the Desert Bar Association's Family Law Section (FLS). Together with Barrie Roberts, Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) Director for the Riverside County Superior Courts, FLS is putting on a mediation program ... |
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| October 10, 2011 |
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MEDIATION Is the Sane Alternative - But Only If You Value Your FAMILY And Your Money!
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| Posted By Thurman W. Arnold, III, Family Law Mediator |
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| DFMS Is Now (Almost) 18 Months Old ! I want to compliment and honor those of you who have seen the terrible destruction and waste that is characteristic of family court litigation, and who have been inspired by this insight to inquire about and ... |
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| June 10, 2011 |
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LITIGATION Verses MEDIATION: ADVERSARY REALITIES Worth Considering Before Pulling the Trigger
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| Posted By Thurman Arnold, III, CFLS |
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| Litigation Is The Default Strategy For Adjudicating Conflict Some people believe that mediators don't hold the American legal system or the judges who play their role within it in high regard. That isn't the case. Speaking for myself, I feel that ... |
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| May 08, 2011 |
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Client SANCTIONED When Her Lawyer DISCLOSED INFORMATION That VIOLATED the MEDIATION PRIVILEGE
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| Posted By T.W. Arnold, III, CFLS |
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| What Marriage of Davenport Means for Mediation Family law mediators and collaborative attorneys, and those attorneys who decry the shameless lack of ethics on the part of some high conflict divorce litigants and their attorneys, are thrilled with a ... |
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| March 27, 2011 |
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Announcing LOS ANGELES FAMILY MEDIATION SERVICES in Beverly Hills, California
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| Artwork Courtesy of www.Love-Art.com Los Angeles Family Mediation Services 310-948-6408 The DFMS Team is pleased to announce that we are launching Los Angeles Family Mediation Services (LAFMS) from our offices at 9400 Brighton Way, Suite 207, Beverly ... |
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| March 14, 2011 |
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DFMS Mediator KAREN HORWITZ Completes IACP Training!
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| Posted By Karen Hortwitz, M.F.T. |
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| I recently attended The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals institute for training collaborative professionals in Phoeniz, Arizona. It was truly inspiring, and I appreciated the opportunity to join with a community of like-minded ... |
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| March 05, 2011 |
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GRETCHEN W. TAYLOR Attends MEDIATORS BEYOND BORDERS 4th Annual Congress in LOS ANGELES
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| Desert Family Mediation Services and its team supports Mediators Beyond Borders with both our money contributions to this worthy organization, and our time. The 4th Annual Congress is taking place this weekend at UCLA in Los Angeles. DFMS Mediator ... |
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| February 12, 2011 |
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Can You Just HELP Us with a STIPULATED AGREEMENT and How Much Might It COST?
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| Q. My husband and I are planning a divorce. We read some of your blogs about mediation thank you for making so much information available. We have pretty much agreed how to divide our property. Neither of us wants spousal support from the other, and ... |
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| February 03, 2011 |
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How Might We Work With STRONGLY FELT EMOTIONS That Surface During Mediation?
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| As is to be expected, people in the midst of relationship transition are experiencing a deep range of emotions that include varying levels of personal distress. For some these are manageable when mediation commences, but they may become inflamed by ... |
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| January 01, 2011 |
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GENDER DIFFERENCES and the CO-MEDIATION SOLUTION
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| While we wouldn't say that co-mediating your dissolution or custody matter is necessarily superior to engaging a sole mediator, we find that there are benefits to co-mediation that particularly assist some parties. Could a team of two oppositely ... |
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| December 10, 2010 |
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Mediation Is Not Appropriate For Everyone: It is a VOLUNTARY PROCESS With Boundaries
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| Posted By Thurman W. Arnold, III, CFLS |
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| Mediation is a difficult and beautiful dance. People arrive with deeply held and heartfelt concerns, and they will continue to hold these core values no matter what occurs. It is not for the mediator or the other party to try to change these core ... |
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| December 06, 2010 |
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DFMS Mediator HON. GRETCHEN TAYLOR Featured In December, 2010, Los Angeles Family Magazine
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| We are pleased to share with you DFMS Mediator the Hon. Gretchen Taylor's December, 2010, article in the Los Angeles Family Magazine "Ask the Family Judge". Here is the link to the publication. Judge Taylor's article appears at page 12 . To read a ... |
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| December 05, 2010 |
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2011 AMENDMENTS to the FAMILY CODE: MEDIATION Becomes Even MORE ECONOMIC
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| Posted By Thurman Arnold III, CFLS |
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| A disaster may be looming in 2011 for some of the California family law disputants who don't realize they are free to opt out of the litigation experience by employing mediation or collaborative law processes as an alternate method for resolving ... |
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| November 14, 2010 |
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BENEFITS of MEDIATION Include Receiving ALL RELEVANT INFORMATION
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| Posted By Desert Family Mediation Services |
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| In the typical experience of divorce or partnership dissolution, parties may or may not make use of legal professionals. Estimates are that over 60% of people don't hire lawyers or even consult with them to address the legal aspects of their family ... |
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