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Announcing WEBSITE DESIGN and SEO For Mediators By Thurman Arnold

Website Design, Development and Optimization for Divorce and Family Law Mediation This is written to anyone who is a mediator, or who is beginning to make the commitment to establish a mediation ...
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How Might We Work With STRONGLY FELT EMOTIONS That Surface During Mediation?

As is to be expected, people in the midst of relationship transition are experiencing a deep range of emotions that include varying levels of personal distress. For some these are manageable when ...
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Mediation Is Not Appropriate For Everyone: It is a VOLUNTARY PROCESS With Boundaries

Mediation is a difficult and beautiful dance. People arrive with deeply held and heartfelt concerns, and they will continue to hold these core values no matter what occurs. It is not for the mediator ...
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Preserving AUTONOMY While Supporting MUTUALITY

Is mediation the best choice for you? Will the other person in your life participate at all, or participate fairly? We can't answer those questions. We can speak to how mediation might work for you ...
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Understanding CONFLICT PATTERNS and WHY TO MEDIATE

One reason why people become "stuck" is that they develop patterns of dealing with conflict, over time, with their spouses, domestic partners, employers, children, inlaws, and just about everybody ...
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DO WE NEED MEDIATION If My Spouse and I Know Exactly What We Want to Do?

Q. So I am wondering - why would we need mediation if my wife and I already know and are agreed about how to divide our stuff? I am thinking we should have a cheap divorce. A. You may not need ...
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What are some of the ADVANTAGES to CO-MEDIATION?

Q. What are some of the advantages of co-mediation? I think about filing for divorce, and I want to ensure it doesn't destroy our children. But my husband and I cannot talk anymore without yelling and ...
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