Recent Posts in Conflict Patterns Category
Posted on May 8, 2011 By T.W. Arnold, III, CFLS
What Marriage of Davenport Means for Mediation Family law mediators and collaborative attorneys, and those attorneys who decry the shameless lack of ethics on the part of some high conflict divorce ...
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Posted on Feb 3, 2011 By Desert Family Mediation Services
As is to be expected, people in the midst of relationship transition are experiencing a deep range of emotions that include varying levels of personal distress. For some these are manageable when ...
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Posted on Jan 1, 2011 By Desert Family Mediation Services
While we wouldn't say that co-mediating your dissolution or custody matter is necessarily superior to engaging a sole mediator, we find that there are benefits to co-mediation that particularly assist ...
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Posted on Dec 10, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold, III, CFLS
Mediation is a difficult and beautiful dance. People arrive with deeply held and heartfelt concerns, and they will continue to hold these core values no matter what occurs. It is not for the mediator ...
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Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
There is a funny bit of nonfiction that has been making its rounds through internet emails. I think it illustrates a scientific basis why mediation may make sense for people who are unwinding their ...
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Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
Is mediation the best choice for you? Will the other person in your life participate at all, or participate fairly? We can't answer those questions. We can speak to how mediation might work for you ...
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Posted on Oct 30, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
One reason why people become "stuck" is that they develop patterns of dealing with conflict, over time, with their spouses, domestic partners, employers, children, inlaws, and just about everybody ...
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Posted on Jul 22, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
Q. What are some of the advantages of co-mediation? I think about filing for divorce, and I want to ensure it doesn't destroy our children. But my husband and I cannot talk anymore without yelling and ...
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