Recent Posts in Attitudes for Peace Category
Posted on May 10, 2012 By Bev Jewell
Palm Springs Divorce Recovery Group Begins June, 2012 Marriage Counselor/Divorce Coach, Bev Jewell, is offering another 6 week "Growing Through Divorce™" support group beginning the first week of ...
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Posted on Oct 10, 2011 By Thurman W. Arnold, III, Family Law Mediator
DFMS Is Now (Almost) 18 Months Old ! I want to compliment and honor those of you who have seen the terrible destruction and waste that is characteristic of family court litigation, and who have been ...
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Posted on Feb 3, 2011 By Desert Family Mediation Services
As is to be expected, people in the midst of relationship transition are experiencing a deep range of emotions that include varying levels of personal distress. For some these are manageable when ...
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Posted on Dec 10, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold, III, CFLS
Mediation is a difficult and beautiful dance. People arrive with deeply held and heartfelt concerns, and they will continue to hold these core values no matter what occurs. It is not for the mediator ...
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Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
There is a funny bit of nonfiction that has been making its rounds through internet emails. I think it illustrates a scientific basis why mediation may make sense for people who are unwinding their ...
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Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
Is mediation the best choice for you? Will the other person in your life participate at all, or participate fairly? We can't answer those questions. We can speak to how mediation might work for you ...
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Posted on Oct 30, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
One reason why people become "stuck" is that they develop patterns of dealing with conflict, over time, with their spouses, domestic partners, employers, children, inlaws, and just about everybody ...
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Posted on Oct 29, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
Q. So I am wondering - why would we need mediation if my wife and I already know and are agreed about how to divide our stuff? I am thinking we should have a cheap divorce. A. You may not need ...
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Posted on Oct 27, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
We believe that mediation serves same sex couples particularly well. It doesn't matter whether you are a domestic partner or one of the 14,000 couples that married during the window that existed from ...
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Posted on Oct 19, 2010 By T.W. Arnold
The question of mediators talking to one party in the absence of the other can come up in a variety of contexts. This Blog discusses initial contacts from one party, often when they are simply seeking ...
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Posted on Aug 3, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
We are pleased to announce that Mediate.com, the largest information source for all types of mediation in the country, has recently published an article by Thurman W. Arnold entitled "The Peacemaking ...
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Posted on Jul 22, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
Q. What are some of the advantages of co-mediation? I think about filing for divorce, and I want to ensure it doesn't destroy our children. But my husband and I cannot talk anymore without yelling and ...
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