Blog Posts in 2010
Posted on Dec 10, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold, III, CFLS
Mediation is a difficult and beautiful dance. People arrive with deeply held and heartfelt concerns, and they will continue to hold these core values no matter what occurs. It is not for the mediator ...
Continue reading "Mediation Is Not Appropriate For Everyone: It is a VOLUNTARY PROCESS With Boundaries" »
Posted on Dec 5, 2010 By Thurman Arnold III, CFLS
A disaster may be looming in 2011 for some of the California family law disputants who don't realize they are free to opt out of the litigation experience by employing mediation or collaborative law ...
Continue reading "2011 AMENDMENTS to the FAMILY CODE: MEDIATION Becomes Even MORE ECONOMIC" »
Posted on Nov 14, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
In the typical experience of divorce or partnership dissolution, parties may or may not make use of legal professionals. Estimates are that over 60% of people don't hire lawyers or even consult with ...
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Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
There is a funny bit of nonfiction that has been making its rounds through internet emails. I think it illustrates a scientific basis why mediation may make sense for people who are unwinding their ...
Continue reading "Conflict Patterns Become HARD-WIRED. Mediation Can Help Parties to RE-WIRE." »
Posted on Nov 8, 2010 By Thurman Arnold, CFLS
Is mediation the best choice for you? Will the other person in your life participate at all, or participate fairly? We can't answer those questions. We can speak to how mediation might work for you ...
Continue reading "Preserving AUTONOMY While Supporting MUTUALITY" »
Posted on Nov 4, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
We are pleased to announce that Attorney and DFMS Mediator Thurman W. Arnold III has received notice from the California Board of Legal Specialization of the State Bar of California that he officially ...
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Posted on Oct 30, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
One reason why people become "stuck" is that they develop patterns of dealing with conflict, over time, with their spouses, domestic partners, employers, children, inlaws, and just about everybody ...
Continue reading "Understanding CONFLICT PATTERNS and WHY TO MEDIATE" »
Posted on Oct 29, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
Q. So I am wondering - why would we need mediation if my wife and I already know and are agreed about how to divide our stuff? I am thinking we should have a cheap divorce. A. You may not need ...
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Posted on Oct 27, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
We believe that mediation serves same sex couples particularly well. It doesn't matter whether you are a domestic partner or one of the 14,000 couples that married during the window that existed from ...
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Posted on Oct 24, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold III
Q. One of reasons why I am considering mediation is that that I've heard it is confidential. It is really important to me and my family that our personal matters not become public. How confidential is ...
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Posted on Oct 19, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
The 2000 American Bar Association Model Standards for Mediation, and indeed the standards for all family law mediation, are based upon the principle of "informed consent." While once known as a ...
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Posted on Oct 19, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
The American Bar Association's Model Standards (2000) define mediation and affirm its importance and core values that can help guide consumers in choosing their mediator. At DFMS we subscribe to these ...
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Posted on Oct 19, 2010 By T.W. Arnold
The question of mediators talking to one party in the absence of the other can come up in a variety of contexts. This Blog discusses initial contacts from one party, often when they are simply seeking ...
Continue reading "Why We Won't TALK ABOUT YOUR CASE When You INITIALLY CALL" »
Posted on Aug 3, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
We are pleased to announce that Mediate.com, the largest information source for all types of mediation in the country, has recently published an article by Thurman W. Arnold entitled "The Peacemaking ...
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Posted on Jul 22, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
Q. What are some of the advantages of co-mediation? I think about filing for divorce, and I want to ensure it doesn't destroy our children. But my husband and I cannot talk anymore without yelling and ...
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Posted on Jul 10, 2010 By Thurman Arnold
Practice Makes Permanent: Reactive Thinking and the Promise of Rewiring our Brains Through Mindfulness Jennifer Kresge, M.A., L.M.F.T. and attorney Nina Meierding put on an excellent institute at the ...
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Posted on Jun 24, 2010 By Desert Family Mediation Services
We are pleased to announce the launch of our Palm Springs Family Law Mediation blog, with an RSS Feed available. Please click the RSS Feed link to receive our articles as they are posted. Desert ...
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Posted on Mar 3, 2010 By Thurman W. Arnold, III
Client as Peacemaker: Define Your Experience of Divorce by Choosing a Peacemaking Lawyer "I know that you have a hundred complex cases, Against God in court, But never mind wayfarer Let's ...
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